Relationships are not always about the things you say to your partner or the stuff you buy them. Romance is 90% no communication, but 100% total communication. This means that the things you say don’t actually come from your mouth.
When you are attracted to someone, you learn to express yourself without using words. Finding the right words for that person is hard – it’s one of the stages of courtship. Words often don’t come easily to some of us.
That’s how most of us learn the power of silence. There’s so much you can do without even uttering a single word. Of course, you need to know what to do and how to interpret that.
These guidelines will teach you a thing or two about body language and the things you might be saying without even knowing it.
There is so much your eyes can tell your partner. Communication with positive and direct eye-contact will let them know that you’re interested in them. At that point, it’s pretty much clear that you want to know more about them.
Body leaned into you
Here’s a stereotypical situation – you’re a guy and you’re out on a date with a girl. If she’s leaning into you with her body, she’s showing a clear interest in you. The first thing a woman usually moves towards you is her foot. It might be under the table, so if you get a chance, take a peek.
Sanding tall, with arm near your shoulder
This is one the most common moves guys pull off near girls. They also tend to lean into a nearby wall, making themselves seem bigger. It’s an instinctive move that shows affection.
Using excuses to touch you
Brushing and touch each other by “accident” is more than enough to let you know if the other side is interested in you. But don’t just go touching everyone until you get some feedback. These touches need to be subtle and sensual, with the person you like.
Man smiling widely
Studies show that males stop smiling widely sometime around the age of 5 or 6. However, this changes when a man sees a woman he likes. That’s why their faces “light up” when they see a woman.
Mimicking their behavior
When someone is really into you, that means you are in their mind most of the time. So, when they start using your gestures and phrases, you can pretty much be sure they’ve “fallen head over heels”.
When formalities kick in
One of the biggest red flags in a relationship is the formality that tends to creep in after a while. Routine can mess up everything, so if you notice your partner is turning away from you at night, or has fallen into a rut – it’s time to shake things up.
If you notice that your partner is reluctant to face you (literally), or is blocking you without even the slightest attempt to communicate, that’s called a body block. This usually involves looking downwards, irritability, edginess.. It means you need to have a talk.
No etiquette whatsoever
Lack of etiquette, like holding the door or chair for you, walking at the same pace, ignoring… Those are all red flags that shouldn’t be ignored. That means that men are no longer romantically involved in the relationship. The same goes for women – they need to follow the etiquette as well.
However, red flags don’t always imply the end is near
Every couple has the potential to find what they lost. Anything can be achieved with enough communication and compromise. Your life is not a movie, which means you need to make your own happy ending.
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